Allow more time than is often expected to make decisions.
It can be difficult to make immediate decisions, for example around the funeral (unless there are religious imperatives). Life decisions can also be difficult. And we can feel the pressure to rush a decision to counter that feeling of powerlessness. Only giving yourself time to allow proper reflection can ensure against regret.
Grieving takes longer than anyone wants or expects, we cannot fight it, we can only find ways to support ourselves in it. When we block it there are much higher rates of both physical and mental illness.
On the positive side
Over time the intensity of the pain lessens; we do naturally adjust and re-engage with life again. Our capacity to adapt is a key signal of our mental health.
Our relationship with time feels changed
The future can look daunting and there can be a longing to be in the past. The best we can do is keep our outlook short, keep our attention focussed on today and this week.
Don’t compare your time frame to others
Or the time imposed on you by others. Often people say 'it’s been three months', 'it’s been a year'. 'Now it’s time to get on with life'. Grief has a pace and a time that is uniquely individual, and we need to respect and allow it.
Nothing in grief is completely black and white
So be aware that grief is also a process that shifts and changes - if there is a sense of real 'stuckness', professional support may be required to protect against complicated grief.